These celebrities are recognized beauty icons, but not everyone knows that they themselves would hardly have appropriated such a status. It’s all the fault of numerous complexes and internal problems, which we talk about in our material.
Brigitte Bardot, Nicole Kidman, Angelina Jolie
In everyday terms, the stars of show business are no different from any of us. None of them is immune from serious psychological problems, including deep complexes. Together with a certified psychotherapist and psychologist Kuralai Nurkadilova, we talk about the internal problems of world-famous beauties, about whom you would never have thought that they could have them.
Marilyn Monroe: Feeling rejected
Marilyn Monroe, 1954
The image of Monroe is a woman basking in the love of men. In fact, the actress had a deep need for this attention, because Marilyn had a deep loneliness in her soul, a love-hungry soul. In women, such feelings often develop due to a lack of paternal attention in childhood. Then they begin to move from relationship to relationship, trying to get a sense of need and love.
If it were not for a successful combination of circumstances that affected Marilyn’s career, perhaps she would have faced a series of unsuccessful relationships or marriages. And even though Marilyn was loved by two powerful men, she couldn’t be completely happy. Since childhood, she considered herself an outcast: she grew up without a father, and after her mother’s illness with schizophrenia, she moved from one foster family to another.
Marilyn simply could not accept all the joys of life that she got: wealth, popularity, spotlight, public attention, career success. The state of deep unhappiness persisted in any circumstances, so it was hard for her, and as a result she faced addictions and ended her life very tragically.
Brigitte Bardot: bondage and complexes about appearance
Brigitte Bardot, 1960
The iconic French actress often said that as a child she considered herself an ugly duckling. But it was the unusual facial features that were able to attract attention to the girl and helped her conquer the audience, tired of classic beauties.
Brigitte was brought up in a strict Catholic family, where there was a lot of pressure from religion and parents. Up to adulthood, they tried to control her life, including the degree of frankness of the movie scenes in which she starred. Therefore, many colleagues said that at the beginning of her career, the girl was very shy, withdrawn.
For a long time she was in thrall to the attitudes of her parents and the church, so at some point her career and success, as they say, blew her roof off. The actress began to act nude, lead an outrageous, bohemian lifestyle, start endless promiscuous relationships. Bardo was completely disoriented and at some point she simply stopped understanding what was good and what was bad. As a result, the star has changed several husbands and many partners.
Jennifer Lopez: Poor girl’s Complex
Jennifer Lopez, 2021
The singer and actress was born into a poor emigrant family, lived very modestly and went the real Cinderella way. She plays this type in many of her film roles. It is the poor girl’s complex that makes the singer always look so bright and stunning, carefully monitor her appearance and image.
Behind millions and a dizzying career are hyper-responsibility, the desire to be the best in everything, achievement and workaholism, the desire to control everything. That’s what helped J.Lo put Hollywood at his feet — a kind of example of a man of success.
Therefore, it is not surprising that Jennifer’s personal life has always been difficult: a broken marriage, unsuccessful engagements. Few partners can stand such an energetic woman with a strong masculine nature next to them.
Angelina Jolie: the complex of an unloved daughter
Angelina Jolie, 2021
The rebellious girl was brought up without a father, so from an early age she struggles with the dark side of her personality. Despite the fact that later she was able to build a professional relationship with her father, a famous director, she continues to broadcast the complex of her disliked daughter.
Young Angelina led a life on the edge: defiant behavior, tattoos, drugs, relationships with questionable partners — most likely, all this was a protracted teenage rebellion, an attempt to attract attention by any means.
Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton, 2000
In her memoirs, Jolie often mentions that only a lucky fate could save her from suicide. Growing up, she continued to choose men who broadcast dark power and unbridled sexuality — remember at least the image of her ex-husband, Billy Bob Thornton.
Nicole Kidman: shyness
Nicole Kidman, 2017
The Australian actress is very shy — as a child she stuttered and could not cope with this problem for a long time. But this character trait rather adorns her roles and gives her image a certain charm.
When Nicole was very young, her mother got cancer, and the girl had to grow up early and take responsibility for younger children and household chores, start earning money. This premature adulthood brought up in the girl nonconformism, rejection of the foundations of society, great independence.
This woman knows how to clearly build up her boundaries, say what she doesn’t like, act differently from everyone else. In her career, she has made many decisions from the opposite. At the same time, the actress, according to her own stories, is still shy to be in the company of strangers and may feel insecure.
Julia Roberts: early experience of abusive relationships
Julia Roberts, 2019
A woman with a character who knows her worth. But she always feels the pain experienced in childhood. When the girl was very young, her mother began a relationship with a new man who turned out to be an abuser who used physical and psychological violence against children.
Julia’s brother, actor Eric Roberts, openly talked in an interview about a difficult childhood. Julia herself never talked about it and even broke off relations with her brother, considering him too frank. Because of this, there have always been a lot of rumors and gossip around the woman, whispering behind her back.
Many girls, who faced aggression from men in childhood, then cannot accept their femininity, build normal relationships and generally live a rather painful, problematic life. This is exactly the fate of Nancy Motes, the younger sister of the actress from her mother’s second marriage.
The girl had a lot of psychological problems, was overweight, used drugs and committed suicide at the age of 37. But Julia Roberts managed to cope with the heavy baggage, it turned out not to lock herself in. In this she has always been helped by her light, perky, slightly boyish character, the ability to treat everything with a positive attitude.
Bella Hadid: not accepting her appearance
Bella Hadid, 2021
Since childhood, the model considered herself not beautiful enough. The girl had several plastic surgeries and found an ideal appearance, recognized by experts as the closest to the golden ratio of living women.
But, despite the external tuning, complexes and the fear of going on the podium, including in underwear, remained inside. The girl was very much complexed because of her figure, considering herself not slim enough. But the model already had a lot of contracts and a very busy schedule of public appearances — she had to step over herself all the time and go against her fears.
Revealing outfits at photo shoots, exits at underwear shows, photos in bikinis on social networks — all this was not a demonstration of courage, as the media and fans believed, but a kind of rebellion against herself, an internal struggle.
Living in constant internal confrontation is a huge emotional burden, and Bella could not cope with it. Physical fatigue from hard work and lack of rest was superimposed on mental problems. The girl’s psyche could not stand constant attention, discussion, being in the spotlight. The result is depression, which the model openly talked about on social networks not so long ago.
Women without complexes: Monica Bellucci and Kim Kardashian
Liberated, self-confident celebrity women are the result of a happy childhood in full families, where there has always been love, care and prosperity. Therefore, their fate was much easier and more pleasant than that of the previous heroines.
Both Kim and Monica are well aware of their value and actively use this knowledge. They have a lot of the archetype of the “priestess” — a woman who knows how to receive unconditional love and bathe in it. Developed female energy, sexuality, natural grace and grace attract the attention of millions of people to them. Kim and Monica are an example of real women, in whose head everything is arranged correctly.
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